Hate

Recently, I left a building where many of the people can be described as hateful. Most of them are of the same race but not all and it doesn’t matter what that race is, they are simply filled with hate. At first, I thought it was just me they hated but I’ve learned these folks don’t discriminate against race, ethnicity, gender or age. They hate everyone who they don’t like!

Evil emoticon

Evil emoticon (Photo credit: wstera2)

A while back, I asked God to open my eyes to what he wanted me to see. I didn’t tell Him what to show me only to show me what He wanted me to see whatever that was. Over time, He answered my prayer. Where I once had suspicion if a person was honest with me now I could see deceit with my natural vision. It was literally  through my peripheral vision that I could see people’s facial expressions change from being ordinary, business like or friendly to sneering, clenched teeth and despising me. Little glimpses whenever they thought I couldn’t see them.  One was almost growling at me, however, I felt no fear at the time. I’ll be honest, later I did feel fear when I thought about them.

These people had no logical reason to hate me because I didn’t give them any. I did my job like I was supposed to, kept to my self and made myself pleasant to work with by using “please” and “thank you”. But God continued to show me how these people were seething with hatred. Interestingly, I was not the only object of hatred. These hateful people spent a great deal of time hating others of the same race, gender and economic background as themselves.

Eventually, I learned that these hateful people had a history of harassing anyone who they really wanted gone. They wrote up one woman for every mistake she made big and small and she was new on the job. The people in this building are audacious in their evil ways. I saw documents where they committed an illegal act for which they will be audited. A coworker told me how he kept all of his emails and notes for protection because a few of these people would open his files that were saved on the shared drive and changed his work.

Anaclasis – A Haunting Gospel of Malice & Hatred

To top it off, most of these hateful people went to church and they brought many of their  church ways to work. One day, we were sitting a table waiting for a meeting to start and one started saying, “Jesus”. Then another after her and then another. It was more like, “Jeeeeessssuuuuusssssssssss”! These women were not genuinely saying the name of Jesus in thankfulness or glorification but it was more like a competition. Almost like, “I can say it better than you… I’m more holy than you are.” It was most strange.

One of the many criticisms of the Bible is that God doesn’t condemn hatred. So I asked the question, “What does the Bible say about hatred?”

Proverbs 10:18  The one who conceals hatred has lying lips, and whoever utters slander is a fool.

If you attempt to hide your hatred you also tell lies so hatred and lying go together.

Psalms 109:3  With words of hatred they surround me; they attack me without cause. In return for my friendship they accuse me, but I am a man of prayer. They repay me evil for good, and hatred for my friendship.

1 John 4:20 If anyone says, “I love God,” and hates his brother, he is a liar; for he who does not love his brother whom he has seen cannot love God whom he has not seen.   

This clearly applies to people who claim to love God, not unbelievers.

1 John 2:9 Whoever says he is in the light and hates his brother is still in darkness.

God tells us that hatred has no cause and it’s there ready to attack and accuse us. Hateful people don’t care how good we treat them, they dish out evil anyway. God tells us the answer to their hatred is to pray! Pray for what?

Matthew 5:44 But I say to you, Love your enemies and pray for those who persecute you,

Pray for their souls. I know, that’s not what I wanted to read either.

Proverbs 15:17 A bowl of vegetables with someone you love is better than steak with someone you hate.

Here’s a warning not to even eat a good meal with a hateful person.

Galatians 5:19 Now, the effects of the corrupt nature are obvious: illicit sex, perversion, promiscuity, idolatry, drug use, hatred…

Hatred is part of a long list of corruptions.

Proverbs 26:26 While their hatred may be concealed by trickery, their wrongdoing will be exposed in public.

God won’t let them get away with tricking and hating people. He will expose it in public.

Leviticus 19:17 You shall not hate your brother in your heart, but you shall reason frankly with your neighbor, lest you incur sin because of him.     

Mean People Suck

Mean People Suck (Photo credit: danny.hammontree)

Hatred leads to the hater doing evil.

1 Samuel 17:42 And when the Philistine looked and saw David, he disdained him,

Goliath hated David, as well as all of Israel and we know what happened to him.

So what’s the solution to all this hatred?

Proverbs 10:12 Hatred stirs up strife, but love covers all offenses.

No Questions No Answers

40+196 Hssssss Many people look at me with hatred when I ask questions about various topics.  Those hateful looks are underserved, most of the time.  I don’t typically pry into people’s personal lives, in fact, I’m largely not interested in others.  It’s simply that I’m inquisitive about many subjects, especially history, art and science.

When discussing things with people, I think out loud (AKA “talking to myself”) and ask questions.  “What would have caused so-in-so to do that?  What was the purpose of using rigid material to build those?  How can I get rid of those weeds without killing all the animals in this zip code?  Questions like that often elicit hateful looks.

My question is, what is it that they hate so much?

Could it be because the average person is a shallow puddle of water and they don’t like watching someone else dig deep for answers?

Could it be because these hateful people don’t really want answers?  Or is it something else?

The answer likely varies by individuals.  However, I have learned this absolute truth.  If we don’t ask questions we won’t get answers.

Jesus told us to ask.

Rot in Hell

Q: Why are so many Christians hateful toward Atheists? 

Quotes are taken from  Shy David’s Jesusphile Page.  They are wickedly funny and filled with hateful remarks from “Christians”.  Gives insight into how some (perhaps many) Christians view Atheists.

“Atheists. I hope they rot in Hell. Hey they don’t worry about it!”

“Fuck you Atheist! When I find out where you live, I’ll drive a pitchfork through that empty head of yours, you arrogant pig!”

“When you die, you’re going to Hell, and are going to permanently suffer down there. And I’ll be laughing at all the Atheist bastards in this echo, when I’m up in heaven.”

“You and all the other atheists in this echo are sloth pigs, who don’t give a damn about life, and are going nowhere in it.”

Q: What did Jesus say in Luke 6:28?  Cuss out those who cuss you?

A:  No, “BLESS those who curse you, PRAY for those who abuse you

 “Atheist. I’m going to love waving to you when you go to hell, and I’m in heaven. And when you go to hell, I’ll get the last laugh!”

“You are nothing but a stupid atheist pig, with the IQ of a democrat.”

“Just a bunch of crazy Atheist…(who will all burn in Hell)…”

“Just by a group being an atheist group, generally means it is a hate group.”

If the Atheists are the hate group what are these Christians?

 A:  1 Corinthians 13:1 If I could speak all the languages of earth and of angels, but didn’t love others, I would only be a noisy gong or a clanging cymbal.

These folks make a lot of noise!

1 Corinthians 13:4 Love is patient, love is kind, it is not envious.  Love does not brag, it is not puffed up. 13:5 It is not rude, it is not self-serving, it is not easily angered or resentful. 13:6 It is not glad about injustice, but rejoices in the truth. 13:7  It bears all things, believes all things, hopes all things, endures all things.

I know that these “Christians” who said such things are not a few but the many.

Q:  If Christians approached Atheists with THE LOVE spoken of in 1 Corinthians 13:1 would Atheists believe in Jesus?

Atheists Do GOD’s Work

Q:  Do what!  How do Atheists do God’s work?

Years ago, I heard a man say this on the radio and I thought I had industrial wax in my ears.  He then explained it simply.

A:  They force us to think about God!

Every time, Atheists talk about not believing in God or are offended by the word g-o-d we immediately think about that very thing – God.  The more hatred they have toward the God they don’t believe in the more each of us immediately thinks of God and little else.

Getup Get God

Getup Get God (Photo credit: prettywar-stl)

In fact, Atheists are so good at forcing us to consider God, they do a better job than God’s people!

Who Needs Fathers?

Q:  Fathers, who needs ’em?

A:  Me and everyone else, that’s who!

Another Fathers Day has come and gone but for me it was just another day.  Just as it’s always been.  I was ahead of my time.  When I grew up everyone had a father except for me, I never knew my father.  He took off and lived his life without me.  As painful as that is it was probably best for me that he was out of my life rather than in and out causing more problems.

Never the less, I’ve always felt like something vital was missing.  As a small child I felt unwanted and rejected but it took decades for me to put words to those feelings.  My mother used to tell me, “The two of us are a family.  We don’t have to have a man around to be a family.”  It made me angry when she said that but now I know that those were her feeble attempts to cope with her own painful situation.  She did not want to be a single parent.  Life as a single parent is hard regardless of how society may accept or reject single parenthood.  The only thing harder than being a single parent is to be the child without a parent.

Every child needs a father who loves him and lives at home.  Is that a statement that needs scientific analysis and costly reasearch?  Throughout my life, I’ve seen the pendulum swing back and forth with this society rejecting fathers to finding fathers and then suing fathers.  God the creator ment for children to have fathers and mothers and intact families.  This is no position paper this is my life.

I’m not taking a position and defending it, I’m telling you about my pain.  I’ve gone from hating my father to hating all men and to forgiving my father and valuing real men.  Real men don’t abandon their families.  My father had serious problems with substance abuse, loose morals and major emotional swings.  He was sick and I forgive him.

Growing up fatherless made me feel inadequate, confused and I’ve had such difficulty relating to men in any way that was not sexual.  I’ve allowed men to use me sexually in order to feel close to a man but those men never loved me.  Those experiences always ended in bitter pain with me hating my self for being used.

As a small child, I used being fatherless as an excuse for my short-comings.  I remember saying that I couldn’t play sports because I didn’t have a father.  Not in those exact words because I was in the early school years.  I don’t know why I said that unless it was my way of crying for help.

I remember my mother also said things like, “I’m your mother and your father.”  She made me so angry saying things like that.  I blamed her my father’s absenteeism.  She rarely talked about him and when she did it was negative messages.  I’m an adult now and I think like an adult.  He took off not her.  His actions are not her fault.  She was a faulty mother just like I’m her faulty child.  I forgive her.

People, especially teachers, treated me with contempt when they learned that I was fatherless.  They were wrong to do so.  I didn’t run off my father and was in no way responsible for his actions.  Now I know this but as a child I often felt that he left because of me.  “My father rejected me because he hated me, I wasn’t good enough, and there was something wrong with me.”  All those precious growing up years were filled with such thoughts and some that were worse.

Feelings of suicide plagued me when I was very young.  Frequently, I had dreams that I was falling from the sky and I was terrified!  I tried to scream but couldn’t.  All I could do was flail my arms and legs about.  In all of those dreams I woke up just before hitting the ground.  Immediately, I felt shame, fear and disturbed.  I never told anyone.

Later in life, I read a book about dreams that explained this type of dream as a suicidal message.  The reason I always awoke before crashing is because our subconscious can not see our dead selves.  If the subconscious mind sees us as dead then we will kill ourselves.  Is that explanation true, I don’t know but that’s what a book said.

Growing up fatherless made me feel lost and for ever searching for that missing father figure.  Our present society hates fathers, men and man hood.  Consequently, society has a distinct hatred toward God, the heavenly father.  I used to belong to the man-father-God hater society due to my own painful experiences.  Now that I think like an adult I no longer blame God for all my problems and father rejecting me because I know that God is not to blame for the actions of fathers and mothers.

I need God and I need a father as we all do.

Father with child

Father with child (Photo credit: Wikipedia)

Atheists vs Christians

Q:  Why do Atheists and Christians hate each other?

I’ll be honest.  There was a time when I felt hatred particularly toward Atheists and I don’t know why.  Especially, after having had my own agnostic time.

Need the answer please.